Leadership and Other Ramblings

The King of Excuses

2008-06-05T08:33:00.005-05:00

That’s me to a “T”! I just recently figured this one out (although I’ve suspected it for some time now). Yes, I am that guy; the one with an excuse for everything!

My enlightenment came after 6 long weeks of taking a break from blogging. A fellow blogger, who I respect greatly, said “It’s been over a month since your last post. What gives?” In my response to him, I realized that I really am the “King of Excuses.” I always have them. Yes, they may be true, but they are still, in fact, excuses. Let’s take a look at a few, and then tell me what you think:

In response to why I haven't been blogging - “I’ve had some health issues the past month. I had strep throat, pneumonia, and an abnormal EKG all in the same week.” (I’m glad to say that everything is now okay! I just have to get another chest x-ray to make sure the pneumonia’s gone)!

In response to where I’ve been lately – “The spring weather has played a part. I’ve finally gotten to spend more time with my girls, playing outside daily.”

In response to why I didn’t work out with a friend a few mornings – “I had a rough night’s sleep. I just couldn’t get up this morning.”

I could go on and on! I started thinking back over the past few months and have realized that I do have an excuse for everything. Every area of my life is touched by my excuses. Maybe they are “good” excuses, and maybe they are “bad” excuses. Either way, they are still excuses.

Do any of you have this problem? Is it a problem at all? Why does it seem that many of us just can’t say “No?” Instead, we have to offer a reason (an excuse) as to why we are saying no. Why does it seem that many of us just can’t say “I’m sorry I failed you,” or “I’m sorry I hurt you?” Instead, we have to try and explain (give an excuse) as to why we failed or hurt. Finally, are excuses really only a selfish way to make yourself feel better for something? Do excuses offer any benefits to the other party?

This one’s really got me thinking. Stay tuned for more of my thoughts/struggles with excuses!

The True Essence of Leadership

2009-04-09T11:07:00.003-05:00

I’m 2/3 of the way through Steve Farber’s new book, Greater Than Yourself, and I have to say that he’s nailed it again! Whether you are familiar with Steve’s business fables or not, I would recommend getting all three of his books. His first two (The Radical Leap and The Radical Edge) take you an amazing trip of how to become an Extreme Leader. His current book (GTY), displays the true essence of leadership: Mentoring and teaching others to ensure that they become more successful than you. Isn’t that what we’re here for? To see our loved ones (both personally and professionally) succeed to a point above and beyond our own success?

Steve has laid out a perfect plan to mentoring and has challenged every reader to partake in their own “Greater Than Yourself” project. If you don’t go out and get the book, I’d ask that you at least check out Steve’s website to learn more about this great challenge.

Have a Great Week!

note: picture courtesy of greaterthanyourself.com

Take The Quiet Road

2009-04-03T10:58:00.002-05:00

The Story

I’ve been driving my daughters to their care sitter most mornings lately, finally gaining an understanding and appreciation for what my wife has done for nearly 4 years. My 4 year old, who has developed a certain morning routine, asks me every day whether I’ll be taking the “noisy” road or the “quiet” road. She has come to the conclusion that the interstate is a noisy road, where the route through town is the quiet road. In fact, she has come to prefer one route over the other. Can you guess which one?

The other week I was running a bit late, and announced my decision to take the “noisy” road because it was a slightly faster route. My daughter immediately spoke up and stated “I don’t hike (her mispronunciation of “like”) the noisy road, daddy!” I explained that we were running late and we needed to take it. While I was giving my explanation, I inadvertently drove right on past the on ramp, to which my daughter enthusiastically laughed and proclaimed “Daddy, you missed the noisy road!” My daughter got her wish in the end: Driving on the quiet road.

The Take Home
Besides being a cute story about my wonderful daughter, what does this have to do with anything? Well, I got to thinking about the noisy road and the quiet road, and realized that there is a lot of parallel between why my daughter prefers the quiet road, and life in general. Think about it a minute. My daughter enjoys the quiet road because she can sit back in peace and enjoy the slower ride while gazing out the window at the beautiful surroundings. She can think. The noisy road, on the other hand, is hectic. The view is of a cement barricade and a grassy hill speeding by the window at an extreme pace that the eyes don’t want to keep up with. It’s overwhelming to a toddler/preschooler. Heck, it can be overwhelming for the adult driver as well.

So, let’s think about our adult lives. Which road would you rather be on? I’m sure if you are like me, most of you are on the superhighway, going fast, staying busy, and becoming overwhelmed. In fact, I’m sure you’re thriving on it. I know that’s where I’ve been for the last several months (since my last post in October of 2008). That’s the world we live in these days. If we’re not busy, then we’re lazy! Well, I’d like to drop kick that thought off the field. I’d challenge each and every one of you to take a step back; to take the next exit off I-80/35 and find yourself a “quiet” rode, where you can slow down, find peace, and enjoy your surroundings! We all need to be lazy at some point just so we can recover from our normal pace!

Have a great week!

It's Almost Game Time Baby!!!

2007-09-14T15:17:00.000-05:00

Here it is, the night before the big in-state rivalry game between Iowa and Iowa State. Being a cyclone fan, I have to say that this year has been disappointing so far. About 2 months ago, I was thinking ISU would probably get 4 wins. However, as the season grew closer and closer, my excitement and dementia grew with it. Before the first kickoff I started thinking 6 wins and a possible bowl game.

Well that daydream came crashing down after 2 straight losses to Kent State and Northern Iowa. Actually, I should say that reality knocked me upside the head. I knew better than to expect a lot this season. New Coach. New System. A whole lot of “newness” this year. (By the way cyclone fans: You have to give Coach Chizik at least three years to bring some people in and instill his game plan. Keep believing).

With that said, I will have to continue to hold on to faith and hope. I might as well keep the dream alive. Who knows, maybe the clones can pull off the upset on Saturday. No one is giving them a chance, and why should they. I do have to say, if there is one truth that has stayed true for the last 9 years, it’s that this game has been the one game where ISU steps it up and plays well most every year. I would not be surprised if the clones pull off the upset by a score of 21-17.

Iowa definitely has the better team this year, but can ISU’s “superbowl at home” be enough motivation to wreak havoc on the Hawkeye’s plans? Only time will tell.

So, raise your cups and let’s toast to a GREAT rivalry, and a Cyclone Victory!!

My prediction is a closer score than most............Iowa 24, ISU 13 (oh, please let me be wrong)

Cake or Pie?

2007-09-19T14:54:00.000-05:00

I know it’s an odd question, but I thought I would mix it up a bit! This would be one of my first “..and other ramblings.”

My goal is this: to get to know other readers and bloggers better by posting a __ or __ poll every once in awhile. I thought it might be fun to see people’s answers and/or explanations, and it would be neat to learn just a little more about everyone. I know that everyone is busy and that sometimes we just need a little break. What better way to spend that break than to respond to these posts with one simple word? (Actually, don't answer that, as I am sure many can think of better ways to "take a break").

So, cake or pie? If you could choose your most favorite pie in the whole world, or your most favorite cake in the whole world, what would you chose? Why?

For me, it’s definitely cake. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good peach or pecan or French silk pie. In fact, when I was younger, I made my mom make me birthday “pies.” But now, if I was starring at a piece of French silk pie or a piece of white or champagne wedding cake, I would have to go with the cake (as long as it had the “right” frosting)!

So there it is. One up for the cakes. What about all of you?

A Motivated Couch Potato!?

2007-10-02T16:13:00.000-05:00

I had a conversation a number of years ago with a teacher about laziness and motivation (I wish I could remember exactly who this conversation was with), and we were arguing whether or not a “lazy” person (let’s call him Mr. Couch Potatohead) was motivated to be lazy, or just simply not motivated. To put it another way: Is laziness attributed to a “lack of motivation,” or does it actually take a person to be motivated to be lazy! Are you confused yet?

Let’s discuss!

You hear it all the time. “I’m just not motivated today!” This statement is usually said by someone who is sitting on the couch watching television, or may have been said by a coworker who has been very unproductive for the day. But, are they truly “unmotivated,” or are they actually “very motivated” to sit and do nothing. Maybe they are not motivated to work, but they ARE motivated to be lazy? Of course, let’s also realize that I am talking about true “laziness” and not someone who is just taking a little time to “relax.”

What are your thoughts on the subject? Is Mr. Couch Potatohead truly lacking motivation? Or, is Mr. Couch Potatohead just extremely motivated to eat his bag of chips while sitting on the couch accomplishing nothing? I used to think laziness involved a lack of motivation, but this teacher really got me going in the direction that a person had to be motivated to be lazy.

The next set of questions is for those that believe laziness is attributed to “being motivated to be lazy:” Is there any such thing, then, as a “lack of motivation.” Can a person lack motivation? Or, aren’t we always “motivated” to be doing something (or for that matter: nothing)?

That is my philosophical thought for the week? Please let me know your thoughts on it!

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Snow Ski or Water Ski?

2007-10-11T10:53:00.000-05:00

Let’s give this a try again. If you’ll remember my post from a few weeks ago (Cake or Pie), I am going to pose a question every once in a while to try and generate a little “reader participation”! My goal here is just to have a fun way to get to know the readers and/or other bloggers. Plus, it’s a good way just to mix things up a bit.

So, which is it? Water skiing or snow skiing? Are you a summer person who enjoys the heat and being able to get out on the lake? Or, Are you a winter person who enjoys bundling up and racing down a ski slope at an unusually high rate of speed?

I’m a snow skier! Being from the Midwest, there is something about snow that just gets me excited. Racing down that hill, swooshin’ back and forth, jumpin’ them moguls, and crashin’ and burnin’ (well maybe not so much the crashin’ and burnin’). There’s just nothing like it.

So, what’s your choice? Gotta pick one!

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Leadership and Other Ramblings Named as an ON Blog! Recipient

2007-10-20T09:39:00.000-05:00

Leadership and Other Ramblings has officially been named as an ON! Blog recipient. Many thanks to Troy Worman for this wonderful recognition of being an outstanding new blog. Please check out his site "Orbitnow!"

I have been blogging now for only 6-1/2 weeks, and I must say I absolutely love the fellowship and conversation that this experience has given me. I can say now that I'm no longer "Shakin' Like A Leaf" (see my very first post here), but am instead, excited and anxious to see where this journey will lead me.

I appreciate everyone who has stopped by and commented on my posts, and I hope that there will be great and plentiful conversation in the future. Again, a huge "Thank You," to Troy Worman, and please check out the sites of my fellow ON! Blog recipients.

About Every Little Thing by Lis
Abundance Journal by Belle Wong (Toronto, Ontario)
Angela Maiers by Angela Maiers
Attitude, Ultimate Power by Mel Kaye
C is for Corrie by Corrie Haffly
Confident Writing by Joanna Young
Continuum Wellness by Catherine
Creatorship by Barbara Sliter
Employer Ease by Carl Lingen
Get Fresh Minds by Katie Konrath
How To Be An Original by Lodewijk van den Broek
Innovating to Win by Jim Todhunter
Leadership and Other Ramblings by Eric Peterson
Lead Quietly by Don Frederiksen
Litemind by Luciano Passuello
Media Hunter by Sticky Advertising
Moment on Monday by Art Dinkin
My Beautiful Chaos by April Groves
Rooms of My Heart by Trinity
Runners Lounge by Amy Hunold-Van Gundy and Tom Green
Sui Generis by Derrick Kwa
Tamara by Tamara Dull
The Happy Burro by Joe Raasch
The Road Map by Ron Bland
ThoughtSparks by Phil
Wendy Piersal by Wendy Piersal
Yap 3.0 by Robin Yap
Your Human Experience by Paula Kawal
ZoomStart by Shane Navratil

"Reach Out and Touch Faith"

2007-10-24T14:33:00.000-05:00

So I was on my way home the other night, flippin’ through radio stations in my car, when Depeche Mode’s song “Personal Jesus” started resonating from my speakers. The specific lyric that first hit my ear was the chorus line of “reach out and touch faith.” I’m sure you all have heard this song before. Heck, I can probably sing the whole song to you right here if you wanted me to (of course, you would have to be prepared to enjoy the screeching of dying mules)!

For some reason though, this night, this lyric really stuck with me for a couple reasons:

1) “Reach out and touch faith.” To touch faith. I just don’t know if I can grasp that idea. Let me explain, by giving you my definition of faith as I see it:

To me, faith is a strong belief in something where there is no proof. It is a belief in something that is not there. That cannot be seen. My Christian faith is a belief in a God that cannot be seen, or heard, or physically touched (although many people do feel the presence of God and do hear the words of God). So, how do you reach out and touch faith? How do you touch something that is not there and cannot be seen? Interesting! Happy Contemplating!

2) Faith and Leadership. Faith in leaders and faith of leaders.

How do you put your faith in others? How do others put there faith in you? How do you really know that these people have “faith” in you as a leader? I mean, you can’t see it (as I’ve defined it). Maybe they’ve told you they have faith in you. Maybe their actions confirm their faith in you. But, how do you really know? I guess the only way to know is by your faith. It has to be your faith in them that allows you to know that they have faith in you. Whew….Life is full of faith, isn’t it?

Final thought/conversation piece: How do you instill faith in your workers/friends/family/etc? What do you look for in others that make you say, “Wow, I am going to put my faith in him or her?” I’ll start the list:

They’re honest
They follow through
They’re compassionate
They listen
….Your lists here….

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Corporate Cutlture: The Black Hole!

2007-10-25T11:51:00.000-05:00

“Welcome to Black Hole Light Processing, Inc. Here at the Black Hole, we pride ourselves on employee retention! Sure, our corporate culture may be dark, shady, and lonely. We may foster a shallow and empty morale, driving the fun out of the organization. But, look at these turnover rates!! They’re lower than the self-esteem of everyone who works for us! And check out our productivity: Higher than our top executive egos. Now that is success at its finest!”

“So, how do we do it here at the Black Hole? How do we keep turnover down and retention up? Well, quite frankly, we do just enough to keep people here. Raises and bonuses are common and competitive. When you pay your people properly, it’s much harder for them to leave. We practice the “Tear-‘em-Down-then-Build-‘em-Up” philosophy. We push hard, and then we push harder. If morale gets too low, then we build them up with praise and complements. It’s these few and far between “pats on the back” that they’ll remember! Trust me, it’s these random acts of kindness that keeps them coming back for more.”

“We also discourage creativity and risk and we make tasks repetitive and uniform. Doing this dumbifies the workforce, where the employees know nothing better than what they have. We also overload the drones, creating 12 hour workdays, 6 days a week. When the employees are busy, they don’t have time to search for other jobs.”

“Well, I can’t give away all our secrets. Otherwise, how would we maintain our competitive advantage? The above was just a few tips for you to share with others on how they can begin to lower their turnover. See, once you’ve got your people in the quicksand, they’re never gettin’ out. The harder they try, the more stuck they get. And that’s really what it’s all about: Recruiting the right stars, and keeping those stars in your galaxy!”

Disclaimer: The above excerpt is from a fake interview with a made up executive of what I believe is a non-existent company, purely for your enjoyment!

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Change Haters Beware!!

2007-10-26T15:11:00.001-05:00

picture courtesy of www.despair.com

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A Fork in the Road (or) Just a Showertime Dilemma?

2007-10-30T08:37:00.000-05:00

I was at a fork in the road of sorts this morning. I was taking my morning shower when I realized that I was out of soap. What an interesting dilemma I had. Do I take the “skip-the-soap” road that possibly leads me to a funky body odor all day at work? Or, do I take the “use-my-wife’s-cherry-blossom-Bath-and-Body-Works-fruity-kind” road that possibly leads me to a less manly, more feminine smelling body all day at work? Well, after minimum deliberation on the choice at hand, I went with the “Cherry Blossom” body wash! See, for me, I would rather smell like fruity flowers, than a sweaty gym sock!

It’s all about choices isn’t it? I mean, aren’t we reaching forks in the road every day? Decisions have to be made. Different roads have to be taken. Obviously, the fork in the road to start my day wasn’t a “major” decision with possible “major” consequences. But, what about some of those major forks in the road we do encounter in work and in life? What are your experiences with these? What forks have you come across? What decisions have you had to make?
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Two Simple, Yet Powerful Words!

2007-11-13T12:31:00.000-06:00

Everyone’s felt it at some point haven’t they? You know what I’m talking about. You do a good deed for somebody, and although you aren’t looking for anything in return, you still feel a little disappointed when you don’t so much as get a “Thank You!” Of course, it shouldn’t be our goal to seek out “Thank yous.” I mean, we really should just do good things for others out of pure love for them shouldn’t we? Even so, I know that many still yearn to hear those two simple, yet very powerful words.

Let’s flip the scenario. I’m sure many of you have experienced this: Out of the blue, you get a thank you note sent to you, but you really don’t know what you did to deserve the thank you. How did you feel? Didn’t it just warm you to know that someone appreciated what you did, even if you didn’t realize it was a big deal to them? Wow! The power of those two simple words.

Now this post really isn’t about you or me receiving “Thank yous.” Again, our goal shouldn’t be to help others purely for the sake of receiving recognition. Shouldn’t it be about all of us being more liberal with those two simple, yet powerful words? What would life be like if all of us started spreading the gratitude that so many people deserve, yet get no credit for? Heck, maybe we should even start sprinkling those two words around for no reason at all. Does someone need to do something for you in order to receive a hearty “Thank You?”

I’ve got to tell you that reading Don Frederiksen’s post on “thank yous” is what really gave me the inspiration for this post! I feel it is extremely important for us to let people know when they are doing a good job, or when they have provided a benefit for us. Here’s a neat story about a man I respected greatly in how he handled his workforce:

Grandpa’s Advice
My grandfather, John Peterson, passed away 2 years ago this last October. However, as he spent his last months in nursing homes for lung cancer, I got to spend many days with him listening to his wise advice on business. You see, my grandfather worked his way up the ranks of Meredith Publishing (which I believe is now Meredith Corporation) and retired as a manager at the print plant that used to be in Des Moines.

The day I will never forget was a day he asked me how work was going. I told him that it was a struggle as there was some tension among my employees. His question to me was this: “Eric, have you thanked them lately?” After explaining that I tried to show my gratitude in various ways, he went on to tell me his way, and why it worked.

My grandfather said that although he wore a suit and tie to work every day, he made it a point to start his day by going out to the shop floor and shaking every single print press operators hand and saying “Thank you”. He thanked them for the work they did, for their dedication to him and the company, and for being a class act individual.

Here’s another key though. He didn’t just thank them and move on. He didn’t just thank them for nothing. No, he really believed in his employees and what they did and therefore believed in those two words. His “thank you” was as authentic of a thank you as those employees could get, because he believed in the work they did.

Wow! Could you imagine having someone start your day every day with a big ol’ “Thank You?” Now that would be something. Of course, you’d probably want to throw in a real and authentic smile too!

~picture courtesy of uniquegreetings.net

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Two More Simple, Yet Powerful Words

2007-11-16T10:12:00.000-06:00

I’ve decided to kick off a series of posts pertaining to “Two Simple, Yet Powerful Words.” You’ll remember in my previous post that I tackled the words “Thank You.” I suppose you could also go back to another previous post where I talked about “Just Smile.” So, what’s on the docket this week you ask?

We’re all human and we all WILL make mistakes. It’s a part of life. No one is perfect (although I constantly strive for perfection). We all have those times when we let others down. We may fail to follow through on a promise. We may say something we later regret. In business, we may be late on a delivery, err on a decision, or fail on our quality. The point is humans make mistakes, which brings us to this week’s two simple and powerful words: “I’m Sorry.”

I know! It’s tough for some of us to admit fault and to take ownership of our mistakes. But, that is exactly what needs to happen. When you screw up: Accept it, Fix it, and Apologize. People need to hear "I'm Sorry." When they are feeling let down, depleted, wronged (and we are the cause of these feelings), then we need to say these two simple, yet very powerful words. Being able to admit fault and apologize for that fault can help a leader gain respect from his/her followers.

It’s really about accountability, isn’t it? As managers/leaders, we are always taught to hold others accountable. But, don’t we first need to start by holding ourselves accountable? We won’t gain the respect of our peers/subordinates/employees/bosses, until we are accountable for our actions (whether they are successes or failures/mistakes)!

Erika Andersen over at The Simplest Thing That Works has a great post on “Just Say Sorry.”
Here is an excerpt from her post:

"My opinion? Refusing to acknowledge that you're wrong is a sign of weakness. And lame apologies are worse than no apologies at all. Seth Godin has a great list in a recent blog post, of apologies from worst to best. "

"The two kinds of fake apologies I dislike the most are the I-couldn't-help-it-so-it's-not-really-my-fault apology and the it's-really-your-problem apology. "

Erika really nails it on the head doesn’t she? We can’t just say we’re sorry. We have to really mean it. The apology must be authentic!

Did you read Erika’s post? She has a great story on the nicest apology she has ever received? What about all of you? Tell me your stories (both good and bad). Let’s discuss and really show the power of these two simple words!

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Blogospheric Tailored Thanksgivings

2007-11-21T08:36:00.000-06:00

Happy thanksgiving to all!

As I sit here reflecting on everything I’m thankful for, I have realized that I could go on for hours. I am most thankful for my wife and my daughters, my career, my true friends, laughter, happiness, my current place in life……..and on and on I could go. Really though, my previous post on my belief statement could help serve as a list of things I’m thankful for.

So, instead of laying out everything I’m thankful for, (as that will be reserved for my family gathering on Thursday), I thought I would tailor the following thanksgivings to what and who I have been thankful for over the last two and a half months from a blogospheric perspective.

I’m thankful for…..

Timothy Johnson because he was my inspiration to enter the wonderful blogosphere – and he is a creative mind with a big heart
Troy Worman and all the connections he has created through his compassion and generosity – and for the honor of being called an ON! Blog
Liz Strauss for opening up her blog on Tuesdays for many to gather for great conversations, Klondike’s, Fat Tires, and fellowship
J. Erik Potter and Bob Loch (two fellow blogging classmates) for continued support, as well as their help and advice on this blogging journey – and for the building of new relationships
Ann Michael for the great discussions we’ve had on her site at Manage to Change
Erika Andersen for initiating our first conversation – and for the inspiration for my “Two Simple, Yet Powerful Words” series
Steve Farber for being the first one to post a comment on my blog (what an honor!) – and for the inspiration I gained from reading his two books
Don Frederiksen’s teachings on how to “lead quietly”
Starbucker’s inspiration for getting me to start to think about my “belief statement”
Drew McLellan’s thoughts on how to begin to change the world – and for his guest lecture in class on social media
Robert Hruzek’s “What I Learned From…..” group writing project and his other thought provoking and inspiring posts
April Groves’ and her passion for children
And, the great conversations, discussions, learning I have been a part of.

I know I’m leaving out so many others. I want to say “Thank You” to everyone who has not only visited this site, but who has allowed me to meander on theirs. Your passion and your writings really do inspire others!

picture courtesy of animals.nationalgeographic.com

Night Owl or Early Riser?

2007-11-26T11:27:00.000-06:00

You’ll remember that I am posting a ___ or ___ question every once in a while, just to mix things up a bit in an attempt to learn more about my readers and fellow bloggers. I’m hoping this will just be a fun little way to learn more about each other as we continue our wonderful journey through the blogosphere.

So, today I’m wanting to know if you are a “Night Owl” or an “Early Riser?” Are you one that likes to stay up late, or would you prefer to hit the sack early so that you can get up in the morning feeling refreshed? Maybe where you currently are on this is not where you would prefer to be!

I am much more of a morning person than a night owl. I can get up feeling rather well in the morning, but I’ll fall asleep during a late night movie 85-90% of the time! My real problem, however, came right after college (when I first started working). See, I had groomed myself in college to be a night owl, but then realized that I needed to switch back to a morning person so I could get to work on time. I’ll tell you this: Being a mixture of both can be bad news. I was staying up way to late, and getting up way too early!

So what about the rest of you? Are you night owls or morning people? Please share! Let’s see where the conversation leads us!

Also, I will be on a short hiatus for a few days. I have found myself a bit overwhelmed as I try to finish up a paper and presentation for a Wednesday night graduate class I take from Tim Johnson, as well as study for an exam for a different graduate class on Tuesday. The deadlines are fast approaching. It’s crunch time, so I’ve got to "DO THIS!" (sorry, just a little motivational pep talk for myself). I’ll try to be back in full force by Thursday.

Other Posts in the ___ or ___ series:

pictures courtesy of geocities.com and fotosearch.com

It's Just Another Day!

2007-11-26T18:53:00.000-06:00

Another year older and another year wiser (so I hope)!

I know that your birthday is suppose to be a special day, but for me today seems like "just another day." Of course, I'm sure it had to do with having to go to work today. Couple that with spending my evening at a coffee shop studying and working on a paper and presentation. (Now, before we decide to lynch the professors that are causing me this work, I better let you know that I do have an art for procrastination)! I know...I know...It's a terrible habit (procrastination, that is), and it's one I hope to break very soon!

But, although it seems like just another day, it's still a day to celebrate! The good Lord has given me another year on this planet. Another year with my family. Another year with my friends. It's been a very good year for me. One full of growth. My family grew by one very special girl (my 4-1/2 month old), and I feel that I have grown both personally and professionally.

So, although today may sound "ho-hum," I've still been able to keep a positive and grateful attitude. Why? Because although every day is just another day, it's still a day to celebrate!

Here's to hoping your days are days of celebration!

P.S>I must send out a "Happy Birthday" wish to two good friends of mine since high school. I've been blessed to share this wonderful day with the both of them.

picture by fadingsunset77, courtesy of photobucket.com

Where Did He Go?

2007-12-13T12:16:00.000-06:00

"Wait! What time is it? What day is it? Where have I been? Has it really been 2-1/2 weeks since my last post? Oh crap......no one will come back. I've let everyone down. My reader's are going to be dissapointed. Have I just created "blogger suicide" by taking too long off between posts? My head's spinning......." Okay, time to slow down and take a step back, and let's try to explain what's been going on.

Yes, these were all thoughts going through my mind the last couple weeks. I wish I had some great excuse for not writing in 2-1/2 weeks, but I don't know that I do. I've been stuck. In a funk. Maybe it was writer's block, (which is just a myth as shown here by Scott Ginsberg), or blogger's block? The thing is, I have lots of topics I want to write about, but I just haven't gotten it done. I've still been "out there," in the blogosphere, reading and commenting, but I failed to give my own blog the proper attention it needed. And for that, I must apologize, and ask my readers for forgiveness.

So, where did I go? After some reflection, I realized that much has transpired in the last two and a half weeks. My 2-1/2 year old daughter contracted Pneumonia, and my 5 month old daughter has an ear infection and RSV (a nasty virus that attacks the respiratory system). Couple those with one of the most busy times at work I have ever seen, and "Voila!" as they say! My mental capacity became drained very easily.

I know those are just excuses, but to me, they are very valid. Beyond that though, I think it's important to realize that many people hit the "mental wall." Tim Johnson just posted on his website the other day about his struggle with writer's block (or maybe it's thinker's block) on his new book. April Groves talked about finding balance on her blog. Well, I realized that the last 2-1/2 weeks I was knocked out of balance when the tight rope I was walking on snapped.

Lucky for me, there are places to turn when needing a swift kick in the pants (or at least a little motivation). Joanna Young over at confident writing had a post on 5 tips to beating blogger's block. If you ever find yourself in my shoes the last couple weeks, give it a look. Or, you could email Tim Johnson asking for a swift kick in the a--. He is very responsive and seemed eager to help ;)

Seriously, though, thank you to those that questioned where I'd been and what I'd been up to. I do apologize to the readers for taking such a long break....But hey, in my previous post I did say I was taking a "short hiatus, returning on Thursday." I guess I failed to mention which Thursday!

Thank your for your patience. I'm officially back - full strength. Look for good stuff in the coming days!

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Another Two “Simple, Yet Powerful Words”

2007-12-16T15:47:00.000-06:00

Human nature tells us we need to feel appreciated. We need to be “lifted up.” We need to be praised. Employees need this; friends need this; Co-workers need this; our bosses need this. So, in sticking with my theme, I feel there are two more simple, yet powerful words that can be used: “Good Job” (or Well Done)!

“Good Job” are two more simple words that can be very powerful to a lot of people. Employees/Subordinates/Coworkers/Family/Friends (you name it), need to hear these two words. Of course, I’m not advocating false praise here. You shouldn’t just go around spewing out these two words to anyone and everyone, increasing the chance of dilution. I mean, everyone needs to be lifted up and appreciated, but not when the praise is undeserving.

On the contrary, the receiver of these words needs to truly be deserving of them. When someone has done something well, then you need to acknowledge that job well done. It’s really about accountability, isn’t it? So many managers and leaders today do a great job of holding others accountable when a mistake happens, or something goes wrong and fails. But, I say we need to be equally good at holding others accountable when something goes right; or when success happens. In fact, I would say that it is more important to hold others accountable for their successes by sharing these two simple, yet powerful words than it is for their mistakes.

I’ve seen leaders throughout my life who constantly harp, constantly criticize. They’re always looking for the negatives, the improvements. Trust me, I’m a perfectionist. I’m constantly analyzing my accomplishments and how I can improve upon them. However, when it comes to other’s accomplishments, I am willing to leave a job well done, at just that! “Good Job!” If there’s room for improvement, maybe as leaders we should save that conversation for another time and let the person bask in his/her accomplishment and praise.

But of course, I’m just one man; one idea; one opinion. I want to know what you think! Is it just as important to share the “Good Jobs” as it is the mistakes? What are your thoughts?

Other Posts in the Two Simple, Yet Powerful Words series:

"Just Smile"

"Thank You"

"I'm Sorry"

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Consistent Follow Through

2007-12-19T08:22:00.000-06:00

“You’ve got to be more consistent in your follow through.” These words were spoken to me early on in my bowling career. Well, I should say my bowling hobby, since I sure don’t make any money doing it.

See, for a bowler, follow through is an extremely important aspect of the game. You can have a great approach, a brand new ball, but if you stop your arm as soon as you lay the ball down, it will slide out and not make it back to the 1-3 pocket, thereby limiting your chance of a strike. Follow through is what puts the revs on the ball, and what allows the ball to turn over and head for the pocket. Of course, I could “geek out” here and explain the other aspects of bowling, like oil pattern, ball speed, ball selection (including cover stock choice, weight block design, radius of gyration, differential, skid/flip), the geometry of line selection; but I’m not going to do that. What’s important here (and my main point of this post), is that follow through is extremely important.

Of course, isn’t follow through extremely important in leadership as well? I found myself asking that question recently when I realized that I am becoming a typical “manager,” in that I talk a good game. However, true leadership is distinguished by not only what you say, but also what you do; your follow through. That is where I have begun to struggle, and where I am focusing my efforts; following through with action, on the words I choose to say.

How important is follow through?

Follow through builds trust

Follow through builds respect (even when that follow through is on a disciplinary action)

Follow through builds confidence

It shows that you will do what you say you will do, and that is what people look for in a leader. They don’t want someone who is all fluff and no substance. Follow through is extremely important, and to your followers, even the small things matter!

I’ve got to be honest here: I have lacked in my follow through the last several months. It’s a weakness that I have found, that I am going to be pouring my focus into. So, how are you on follow through? What keeps you from following through? I’ll have more thoughts on this in a later post, but I want to know your thoughts now!

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"Fill 'Er Up Please!"

2007-12-31T07:34:00.000-06:00

You don’t see many full service stations around much anymore, do you? Well, at least not here in the Midwest anyway. Maybe it’s because as a society, we are becoming more independent. Or, maybe as a business, service stations didn’t feel it was value added to the customer. Or, (I hope this isn’t the case), maybe customers became less grateful over the years, and failed to tip well. I haven’t done any research on the subject, so I really have no idea what the reasoning is. All I know is that I could remember a time when my parents would roll down their windows and say “Fill ‘er Up Please…..Unleaded will do just fine,” (sorry if I have dated some of you ;)). But now, you just don’t hear that anymore.

So what’s the point, you ask? Well, for some reason, this service station scenario popped into my head while I was reading the book How Full is Your Bucket, by Tom Rath and Donald Clifton. Well, not so much the service station, as the automobiles that come in for the fuel. See, in the book, the authors really stress the importance of filling others’ buckets with positive events (hence, the “Fill ‘er Up Please” quote). See, everyone has this internal bucket, and others can either dip from the bucket with negatives, or fill the bucket with positives. As others dip from your bucket, you lose motivation, become less productive, and in turn continue the cycle as you begin to dip from others. However, as other people fill your bucket with positive interactions and comments, your morale increases, your productivity increases, and the workplace can become a more thriving workplace. In fact, they have researched and researched and realized that the magic ratio is 5:1. That is, production becomes most efficient at 5 positive interactions, to every one negative interaction.

So, how does this relate to a car? Let’s think about this a minute. Your car needs to be constantly filled with fuel (the positives) to be able to produce (that is run). If your fuel tank (the car’s bucket) runs out of those positives, then it stops. It can’t perform. Isn’t this similar to humans? As people constantly introduce negatives into our world, don’t we begin to perform less and less, until at some point, our bucket becomes empty and we just give up? Apathy sets in? We have to be conscious of this, and remember that people need praise and need to be “filled up.”

I want to recommend this book to all of you. It has really opened my eyes as to how I interact with others. It’s amazing what very minor changes in both verbal and nonverbal cues can do. It can mean the difference between a negative experience and a positive one for others. Remember, as you fill others’ buckets, yours will be filled as well!

What do you think? Do you agree with this book? Let me know your thoughts, so we can begin a discussion!

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Best Showers: Morning or Night?

2008-01-07T16:28:00.000-06:00

You’ll remember that I am posting a ___ or ___ question every once in a while, just to mix things up a bit in an attempt to learn more about my readers and fellow bloggers. I’m hoping this will just be a fun little way to learn more about each other as we continue our wonderful journey through the blogosphere.

So, today I’m wanting to know: Do you prefer the wake-up-and-shower routine? Or, are you a shower-before-bedtime person? I know….this may seem a bit personal, but I thought it might be fun to start a discussion on the pros and cons of showering in the morning vs. evening. I’m not trying to delve into your personal lives, so please don’t mistake my motive. I just like to mix the discussion up a bit and see where it takes us. So, what’s your preference?

Me? Well I’m definitely a wake-up-and-shower kind of guy. I just need that refreshing morning wake up call that a shower gives me! Of course, if I’ve just had an exhausting workout late in the evening, I’ll go ahead and grab me a shower-before-bedtime. But, I’ll usually wake up in the morning wanting another shower to “wake me up” and help me get rid of that “bedhead”.

Oh, but here’s a twist! I’m also not afraid to go a day or two without a shower (usually on a weekend). I’m sure it’s hard for many to even think about, but it really does make that next one a “special” one!

So, what about the rest of you? Do you need that morning shower? Or, are you like a friend of mine who can’t even think about going to bed “dirty.” (This buddy literally showers every time before he gets into bed!). Bonus topic: What are the pros and cons (as you see them) to showering at night vs. showering in the morning?

Other Posts in This Series:

Snow Ski or Water Ski?

Cake or Pie?

Night Owl or Early Riser?

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Tight Ropin'

2008-01-09T09:21:00.000-06:00

I've recently run across a multitude of posts speaking of "balance," and it really inspired me to analyze my current situation. Am I balanced? Am I effectively balancing everything in my life, or has my focus on one or two areas taken away from what's really important to me? April Groves has a great post on balance, which struck up a frenzy of comments. She explains how we need to make sure that "the success of thing 1 doesn't result in the unintended failure of thing 2."

So, are you balanced? Or, have you done what many of us do and put all your focus on one aspect of your life? Maybe it's your work, or your health, or your hobbies. All of these are admirable things to focus on, as long as they don't take away from what's most important to you. Or, maybe you are like me and have run yourself so thin by taking on so many tasks, that you can't possibly be balanced. Stephen Covey really attacks this question of balance with great insight in his post "How to strike work and life balance." The following quote from Covey really puts some perspective on "balance:"

"There are no quick-fixes to achieving work/life balance. Your priorities may change as your circumstances change. Thus, I invite you to consider the things that you value most and allow those to serve as the foundation."

You've got to consider the things that you value most, in order to determine whether or not you are balanced! It's really up to you and how you define balance. So, here's to hoping each of you find equilibrium in your lives!

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Sympathy, Empathy, and Compassion: "There's A Difference?"

2008-01-18T08:47:00.000-06:00

What a morning! I was pulled up out of my own pool of ignorance this morning at my weekly bible study. See, our group has just started studying Max Lucado’s Life Lessons Series on The Gospel of Mark, and today was Lesson 1: Compassion!

There’s a whole lot to talk about, but I’ll keep this to one point: Some people look for sympathy, and some people look for empathy. But, what most people need is compassion. Or in my case: I’m good at sympathizing, and I’m decent at empathizing. But, do I need some work at being compassionate. Here, let me explain the difference between these three using Max Lucado’s words:

“Compassion is one aspect of love. Compassion may grow from feelings, but true compassion represents a practical attention to someone’s needs. It doesn’t require us to feel: it requires us to act. Sympathy says, ‘I feel bad that you’re hungry.’ Empathy says, ‘I know something about how you feel; I was hungry once myself.’ But compassion says, ‘Friend, let’s go get something to eat.’ Sympathy and Empathy don’t require us to do anything; but compassion will cause us to touch, lift, feed, and help those in need as Jesus did for the leper.”

Wow! All along I have felt that I was a compassionate person. However, now I realize that I’ve been practicing the art of sympathy and empathy, and forgetting the act of compassion. To reiterate Lucado’s argument, true compassion is about action and not about what you say or feel.

So, what can leaders take away from this? What can you as leaders do to show compassion? Or, are you even worried about this compassion thing? Is compassion an important part of leadership?

I want your thoughts. I want to dig deep and start a conversation on this, but I need your comments! One final question for you that is bound to get you thinking: Where do you draw the line? Specifically, at what point can your compassion lead to “enabling” of unwanted behaviors from your followers?

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Avoiding "M&M" Leadership

2008-01-30T17:40:00.000-06:00

I feel it’s important for us to discuss what I call “M&M” leadership, and how we can avoid it. The content may have some overlap with my previous post on “Avoiding the MonoBLOGue,” but I wanted to apply that concept to leadership.

So, what is “M&M” leadership? Well, for me it is monotonistic leadership through monologue(“M&M”), and it is a skill set we, as leaders, need to avoid.

Leadership by Monologue:
Followers, coworkers, family members, and the like don’t want to be talked at! They want to be involved in conversations and dialogue. They desire to feel apart of the change that is taking place; the meeting that is being held; the processes that are being developed. They require inclusion, not exclusion. So, knowing this, we need to make sure that we include our followers in our discussions. In fact, if we take Bob Prosen’s advice on surrounding ourselves with people that are smarter than us, then we should seek the knowledge that these people can bring to the table.

Monotone Leadership:
Passion is contagious! For that matter, a lack of passion is contagious! Employees, followers and coworkers need to see our passion in order for them to be inspired and passionate as well. Therefore, we have to be conscious of our tone. We can’t be monotone leaders, always saying the same old thing in the same old way. It won’t inspire and it won’t motivate. Making a conscious effort to bring energy and excitement to our leadership will better help influence those around us, and that’s what leadership is all about!

So what are you doing to ensure that you are avoiding talking at people and avoiding being a monotone motivator? What tips do you have for bringing energy and passion to your leadership?

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